LOOKING FOR NICE
                                                               Author Unknown

                        Then there was the incident at the school playground - a run in with a
                        bully two years older and a lot bigger. And then there was the incident
                        just before bedtime - a little thing turned into a big thing by an ornery,
                        over reactive father.

                        Uh, that would be me.

                        At the end of the day - unpleasant though it was - Jon and I knelt
                        together by his bed to say prayers. His voice sounded weary, not just
                        tired, as he began the usual litany of thanks: "Thank you for my Mom and
                        Dad," "thank you for my brother and sisters," "thank you for my friends,"
                        "thank you for our house."

                        Then he slipped in something new for which to be thankful: "Thank you
                        for nice."

                        He paused.  "Thank you for nice?"  Nice what?  Nice family?  Nice
                        dinner?  Nice pants?  Or maybe I misunderstood.  Since he doesn't like
                        potatoes, maybe he was saying  "thank you for rice." Or since his room is
                        decorated with a Mickey Mouse theme, maybe it was "thank you for mice."
                        
                        I was beginning to think Jon was just goofing around with his prayers
                        again, and I was about to scold him when he continued:  "Thank you for not
                        rude." And then:  "Thank you for safe."

                        Suddenly I understood.  Jon wasn't expressing thanks for specific
                        things because, let's be honest, he didn't have much for which to be
                        specifically thankful that day.  But instead of being thankless, he was
                        generally grateful.  OK, so maybe the day was pretty miserable for him -
                        he was grateful for the general notion of "nice." Although he had at various
                        times in the day felt threatened and insecure, he was grateful to know that
                        there is still such a thing as "safe." And even though several people -
                        including his father - had been rude to him, he was grateful to know that
                        "not rude" was a possibility.

                        I was touched by the sweetness of his prayer.   And when we got off our
                        knees, I couldn't help but be impressed with the change in his attitude.
                        He didn't seem to be quite as weary as he was before.  In fact, he seemed
                        calm.  Peaceful.  And hopeful for a better day in the morning.

                        Which, I'm happy to report, it was.

                        I don't know for sure if his prayer had anything to do with the
                        improvements in his life the next day.  But his attitude certainly did.  He
                        didn't go to the bus stop with a chip on his shoulder, looking for a chance
                        to get back at the little girl who had been mean to him.  He went looking
                        for "nice," and he found it - just like he found "not rude" on the
                        playground and "safe" at home.