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By an anonymous
author…
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in more ignorant times, people believed men had a limited
amount of life-giving juice. So to spill it on the ground
was considered a waste of God's precious gift and a threat
to the continuation of the society. Since then, we've learned
sperm is like the old Doritos commercial -- go ahead, we'll
just make more.
Then
there was the idea that just having sexual thoughts at all
was sinful, corrupted the soul and chased away the Spirit.
Even regular old sex between married partners became suspect.
(God gave us sex organs and the pleasurable sensations associated
with them but apparently he couldn't stand to watch us use
the gift.) Some religions decided sex was only for procreation
and even then you'd better not find yourself enjoying it.
When sex is dirty, having sex alone is even dirtier. Oh,
shame, shame, shame.
So masturbation
got hit with the double whammy of wasting seed and indulging
in sexual pleasure.
Then,
because masturbation is the primary sexual release for teens
and the celibate, some people assume once a person has access
to regular sex that they shouldn't need to masturbate. They
think masturbation and sex are separate and mutually exclusive
things. Or they think masturbation is immature. And in a
world where most women are just discovering their own orgasms
and the joy of self pleasuring, there's the feeling that
their men masturbating borders on infidelity. "Aren't
I good enough for him?"
The
whole taboo about masturbation is tied up with our unwillingness
to accept that humans are sexual beings, that our craving
for sex is as deep and valid as our craving for food. But
most religion is the enemy if desire. The only desire you're
supposed to have is to adhere to the tenets of the religion.
Love God, not your own orgasms -- particularly when the
average sexual experience is usually far more profound than
the average spiritual experience.
Personally,
without masturbation I would have gone insane. I started
when I was 6 or 7. I remember sneaking peeks at the lingerie
sections of Sears's catalogs. I had some serious things
to lie about at my baptism interview. And all my priesthood
interviews. And my mission interviews. I could spot the
guys who were really trying not to masturbate. They were
jittery, preoccupied, cranky and, in some cases, mean. They
had fits of self loathing followed by bursts of piety. They
were really sad to watch.
Some
people think masturbation is a sign of thinking too much
about sex, but the truth is, masturbation helps you forget
about sex for a while. Abstinence is like trying to fast
in order to get over hunger. Enjoy a little release, get
it out of your system, then go about your business. That's
how it worked for me. Content, mellow, able to concentrate.
Read
what a medical physician said about the healthy benefits
of masturbation here.
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