 "The
First Presidency has interpreted oral sex as constituting
an unnatural, impure, or unholy practice. If a person
is engaged in a practice which troubles him enough to
ask about it, he should discontinue it."
- Official Declaration of the First Presidency of the
Church, January 5th, 1982.
"What
if the person asking you to engage in something defiling
is your husband, whom you love? A married couple
may be tempted to introduce things into their relationship
which are unworthy. Do not, as the scriptures warn, 'change
the natural use into that which is against nature'
(Romans 1:26). If you do, the tempter will drive a wedge
between you."
- Apostle Boyd K. Packer, "The Things of the
Soul," 1996, page 113.
 Don't
Even Talk Dirty in Bed
"Marriage is both a commandment and an exalting principle
of the gospel. Because it is ordained of God,
the intimate physical expressions of married love are
sacred. Yet all too commonly, these divine gifts are desecrated.
If a couple allows lewd language or pornography to corrupt
their intimacy, they offend their Creator while
they degrade and diminish their own divine gifts. True
happiness is predicated upon personal purity. Scripture
commands: "Be ye clean." Marriage should ever
be a covenant to lift husbands and wives to exaltation
in celestial glory."
-
Apostle Russell M. Nelson, "Nurturing Marriage,"
April 2006 General Conference
God's
Moral Law Never Changes
"Doesn’t it make you deeply grateful to belong
to a church with apostles and prophets at the head—knowing
that one link will always hold, one light will
never go out? As the world moves deeper and deeper
into sin, this wonderful Church stands like a
giant granite boulder."
"Aren’t
you thankful to God that the apostles and prophets never
waver on sin? No matter how strong the winds of
public opinion may blow, the Church is immovable."
"Those
who espouse perverse principles and deviant behavior are
living in sin. Consenting adults that teach contrary
to the gospel are wrong even if the majority accepts them.
Sin is sin, and that is God’s truth."
-
Apostle Vaughn J. Featherstone, “Carry the Torch,”
October 1999 General Conference, also New Era, Mar. 2001,
page 40
Mormons
who think oral sex is okay in the sight of Heavenly Father
are just deceiving themselves.
From the October 2003 Ensign Magazine:
“Touch not their unclean things. Too many Latter-day
Saints today somehow believe they can stand with one hand
touching the walls of the temple while the other hand
fondles the unclean things of the world. We can’t do that.
As Alma said, “Touch not their unclean things” (Alma 5:57).
I plead with you, put both hands on the temple. Put your
arms around the temple, and hang on for dear life to your
family dream. If you don’t, the tigers will come at night
and tear your dreams apart."
"....show your profound respect for that love—and for
the doctrines about eternal love and family life—by bridling
your passions. Don’t be deceived by the false idea that
anything short of the sex act itself is okay. That is
a lie, not only because one step overpoweringly leads
to another, but because even touching another person’s
body with sexual intent is part of the intimacy that is
kept holy by the sanctuary of chastity. Please also
beware of unnatural sexual acts that are just as immoral,
if not worse, than traditional fornication or adultery."
- Elder Bruce C. Hafen, “Your Longing for Family Joy,”
Ensign, Oct. 2003, page 28
"Unfortunately,
some married couples fail to realize that sexual
experiences were never intended by the Lord to be a mere
plaything or merely to satisfy passions and lusts.
When couples engage in physical intimacy devoid of emotional
and spiritual intimacy, or when they participate
in unholy practices, what should be a spiritually bonding
element in their marriage may actually become a disruptive
force. Going to the scriptures and to
the words of modern prophets for inspired counsel
is one of the best ways husbands and wives can improve
their communication and strengthen their marriage.
- Elder Spencer J. Condie, “Finding Marital
Unity through the Scriptures,” Ensign, Jul 1986,
page 52
The recent statements above mirror the official church
declaration against oral sex, which was signed by the
First Presidency - including Gordon B. Hinckley:
 "Married
persons should understand that if in their marital relations
they are guilty of unnatural, impure, or unholy practices,
they should not enter the temple unless and until they
repent and discontinue any such practices. Husbands
and wives who are aware of these requirements can determine
by themselves their standing before the Lord."
"All
of this should be conveyed without having priesthood leaders
focus upon intimate matters which are a part of husband
and wife relationships. Skillful interviewing and counseling
can occur without discussion of clinical details by placing
firm responsibility on individual members of the Church
to put their lives in order before exercising the privilege
of entering a house of the Lord. The First Presidency
[including Gordon B. Hinckley] has interpreted oral sex
as constituting an unnatural, impure, or unholy practice.
If a person is engaged in a practice which troubles him
enough to ask about it, he should discontinue it."
- Official Declaration of the First Presidency of the
Church - Including Gordon B. Hinckley, January 5th, 1982
See a photocopy of the letter here: PAGE
1 - PAGE
2
In a
letter responding to an inquiry from a married couple asking
if oral sex was permitted, the late church Presient and
Prophet Harold B. Lee stated:
"I was shocked to have you raise the question about
`oral lovemaking in the genital area among married couples.'
Heaven forbid any such degrading activities which would
be abhorrent in the sight of the Lord. For any Latter-day
Saint... to engage in any kind of perversions of this
sacred God-given gift of procreation would be sure to
bring down the condemnation of the Lord whom we would
offend were we to engage in any such practice."
- Church President Harold B. Lee, http://www.solotouch.com/res/art/art00010.htm
The church has also condemned "unatural" sexual acts in
marriage:
 "Sexual
relations in marriage are not unrestrained. Even though
sex can be an important and satisfactory part of married
life, we must remember that life is not designed just
for sex. Even marriage does not make proper certain extremes
in sexual indulgence. To the Ephesian saints Paul begged
for propriety in marriage: "So ought men to love their
wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth
himself." (Ephesians 5:28.) And the Lord's condemnation
included secret sexual sins in marriage, when he said:
"And those who are not pure, and have said they were pure,
shall be destroyed, saith the Lord God." (D&C 132:52)"
"If it is unnatural, you just don't do it. That is all,
and all the family life should be kept clean and worthy
and on a very high plane. There are some people who
have said that behind the bedroom doors anything goes.
That is not true and the Lord would not condone it."
- President Spencer W. Kimball, The
Teachings of Spencer W. Kimball, p.311-12
 "Physical
intimacy is not only a symbolic union between a husband
and a wife—the very uniting of their souls—but
it is also symbolic of a shared relationship between them
and their Father in Heaven. He is immortal and perfect.
We are mortal and imperfect. Nevertheless we seek ways
even in mortality whereby we can unite with Him spiritually.
In so doing we gain some access to both the grace and
the majesty of His power. These are moments when
we quite literally unite our will with God’s will,
our spirit with His spirit, where communion through the
veil becomes very real. At such moments we not
only acknowledge His divinity but we quite literally take
something of that divinity to ourselves."
"Please,
never say: “Who does it hurt? Why not a little freedom?
“Flee fornication,” Paul cries, and flee “anything
like unto it,” the Doctrine
and Covenants adds. The body is something to be
kept pure and holy. Do not be afraid of soiling
its hands in honest labor. Do not be afraid of scars that
may come in defending the truth or fighting for the right,
but beware scars that spiritually disfigure, that
come to you in activities you should not have undertaken."
- Apostle Jeffrey R. Holland, “Personal Purity,”
Ensign, Nov 1998, page 75
 “Tenderness
and respect—never selfishness—must be the
guiding principles in the intimate relationship between
husband and wife. Each partner must be considerate and
sensitive to the other’s needs and desires. Any
domineering, indecent, or uncontrolled behavior in the
intimate relationship between husband and wife is condemned
by the Lord. Pornography and unwholesome
fantasies erode one’s character and strike
at the foundation of a happy marriage.”
- The Prophet Howard W. Hunter, “Being a Righteous
Husband and Father,” Ensign, Nov. 1994, page 50
Local
church leaders have been encouraged not to ask married
couples about their sexual practices. However, the chuch
has not changed its position that oral sex is an "unnatural,
impure, or unholy practice" and therefore it is prohibited
under the covenant made in the temple to abstain from
all "unnatural, impure, or unholy practices."
No
Questioning of Church Stand Against Oral Sex
 "Some
Church members may have reservations because of a physical
appetite they are not quite willing to surrender."
"Some
members are constantly evaluating the gospel by the standards
of the world. They may think, 'That is not how I think the
Lord would want it done,' or, 'Based on my understanding
of the scriptures, the Church position should have been
. . .'”
"Other
common reservations are flagged by words such as 'yes, but
. . .' when scriptures or prophets are quoted.
Or we may hear, 'I am not going to let the Church make my
decisions for me.'"
"For us,
to 'believe all things' means to believe the doctrine of
the restored gospel of Jesus Christ as well as the
words of the Latterday prophets. It means to successfully
erase our doubts and reservations. It means that
in making spiritual commitments, we are prepared to hold
nothing back. It means we are ready to consecrate
our lives to the work of the kingdom."
"Unquestioning
obedience to the Lord indicates that a person has
developed faith and trust in Him to the point where he or
she considers all inspired instruction — whether it
be recorded scripture or the words of modern prophets
— to be worthy of obedience."
"Let
us believe all things. Let us have unquestioning
faith in all of the doctrines and truths of the restored
gospel."
- Elder Robert
Oaks, "Believe All Things" Church Ensign, July
2005, page 30
"Have
we been careless? Have we drifted far too much in the
direction of the world's view, which is so saturated with
Lucifer's lies about physical intimacy? It is indeed time
to rise up and be careful! Careful about everything
that comes into our hearts, minds, and homes which pertains
to physical intimacy. Could the words of the
Prophet Joseph Smith apply to how in times past we have
carelessly thought about, and talked about, physical intimacy?
Joseph said: 'How vain and trifling have been our spirits,
our conferences, our councils, our meetings, our private
as well as public conversations—too low, too mean,
too vulgar, too condescending.' We must be very
careful with our language and our conversations about
everything related to this sacred physical endowment."
"The
Lord blesses spouses who love each other purely. I believe
He blesses spouses whose passions and appetites have been
influenced by the Holy Ghost. We were given the
gift of the Holy Ghost for exactly such a time as this.
Is it difficult to believe that the Holy Ghost will help
you express your love physically? He will. Pray
for it."
- "Personal Purity and Intimacy" by Sister
Wendy Watson, 1999 Women's Conference
Note:
According to a recent Discovery Health Network/Berman and
Berman poll, 63% of all adult men and women wish they had
oral sex more frequently, while nearly the same percentage
(60%) indicate that giving and receiving oral sex is their
favorite sexual behavior.
Questions?
Comments? Please e-mail
ldsgems@hotmail.com.
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