The Spoken Word "Helping Those in
                                Need"
                        Given by Lloyd D. Newell
                            March 22, 1998

                One of the most difficult dilemmas of life can
                occur when we sense that a loved one or friend
                needs help, but we're not sure how to provide it.
                Perhaps we see a child crying. Something has
                upset her, but when we ask what's wrong, she
                quickly replies, "Nothing." Maybe a friend has
                lost his job, and we want to show our support
                and sympathy. But it is often difficult to find the
                right words. Perhaps a neighbor has suffered a
                loss, and we want to provide what comfort we
                can. But we are also reluctant to intrude
                inappropriately.

                It is easy under such circumstances to feel
                helpless or inadequate, with little comfort to
                offer and little joy to share. It is important,
                however, that we not allow our feelings of
                discomfort to prevent us from offering what aid
                we can. Almost always, the help we offer will be
                gratefully received. Sometimes even a small
                gesture that says "I care" can be enough to
                make a difference.

                A businessman sat in a busy airport and noticed
                a young mother struggling with a tired, crying
                child. At first he was reluctant to intrude. He
                was, after all, a stranger. Perhaps an offer to
                help would be resented, he thought. But seeing
                an edge of desperation on the young woman's
                face persuaded him to intervene. She responded
                to his offered help with a grateful thank you. He
                held her child while she filled a bottle and
                watched her bags as she changed the baby's
                diaper. Although his aid lasted only a few
                minutes and he never saw her again, he had the
                satisfaction of knowing that he had made a
                difference and had turned a difficult moment into
                a manageable one for someone who, however
                briefly, had needed him.

                While we may not always know exactly what to
                do in times of difficulty, we can almost always
                help in a small gesture of help, offered sincerely
                to someone genuinely in need, can literally
                change a life for the better.